This conversation explores how polyamorists experience gendered challenges in heterosexual dynamics. (I’m read as woman-presenting and feel comfortable engaging in discussions from that perspective). Our analysis is based on conversations with many men- and women-presenting individuals about dating the opposite sex/gender and the judgments that come with it. Romantic relationships are still heavily shaped by compulsory monogamy, which pathologizes any deviation from its norms. While polyamory is

In polyamorous relationships, establishing clear boundaries and understanding what constitutes cheating is of utmost importance. Due to the non-monogamous nature of polyamory, individuals in such relationships often have multiple romantic or sexual connections with the consent of all parties involved. However, this does not mean that cheating is impossible or irrelevant in polyamorous dynamics. Quite the contrary, having an open and honest discussion about what each person considers as cheating